Being Selfless

What does it take for someone to be selfless in hard situations? It is hard to get past, hey what about me, I care about you, but hey what about me!  The changes in someone else can only help us change right?  However, what if you focused on changing yourself within instead of trying to elude the other person to change.  At this point, I know your thinking man this sucks, because what about me!  I’m only the way I am because the people around me react a certain way and I need to speak my truth to tell them they are wrong. Are you right, or only right in your own head? How often has “your truth spoken” got you in positive happy situations?  I am extremely guilty of this, I must react and speak my mind because heavens I must inform the person they are absolutely wrong.  However, what would happen if I stopped, held my tongue and just thought and prayed for God to help me respond.  I have NO IDEA because I never do it.  Wow that is a problem I need to change.

The bible states in James 3:2 “We all make many mistakes. If people never said anything wrong, they would be perfect and able to control their entire selves, too.”  Wow, God knows that I make mistakes and can’t control myself, I SHALL RECEIVE GRACE!  However, that doesn’t invite me  to continue on my own path of wisdom and truth to set others straight.  Setting others straight with “truth bombs” can sometimes invite unwanted consequences.  How can one get past this? You ask God for wisdom in every moment of your life, not just the emergencies.  In James 1:5 If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, ans he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.”

How can I set my path right before God, to learn to tame by over flowing tongue?  Remembering that a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger, Proverbs 15:1.  I should seek wisdom and pause, because wisdom is better than my own personal truth bombs.  It is okay not to respond to someone right away and say you know what I’m upset, I need to sit and pray about this situation. I think we all can learn that our reactions to unpleasant events can invite positive or negative consequences into the situation.  Being truthful is Gods way, however truth in love is how it is delivered and sometimes it takes a lot of love to get to the truth.  So I am choosing to be selfless and hold my tongue that wasn’t meant to be tamed so I can better serve my God in everything I do.  selfless love

“Let us not love with words or speech, but with actions and in truth” -1 John 3:18

Inner Strengthen

Building your inner strength is a life long task.  I’ve come to learn that life is uncertain and unpredictable.  When my life changes I feel insecure, off balance and unclear of what to do next.  What are ways I can empower myself and take care of me when that piece of wood gets thrown in to trip me up.

The me I know would take a few days and cry,  go through a cycle of poor pity me and try to find a reason of why this is happening.  However I’m learning to STOP and be empowered.  What are ways that I have started empowering myself to change my cycle?  I ask God for help, I slow down and I rest with him.  I need to learn to trust in him more and take care and support my feelings and needs.  As a mom it’s hard to try to focus on yourself. You begin comparing yourself to other moms and start having self doubt that you even deserve some time to take care of yourself.  You start questioning if you are a selfish person for wanting that time and thinking you deserve it.  You start filling up every free hour with a task because you feel that it is your job and purpose and that it needs to be done to make you look efficient and useful.  You see these are things that run in my mind constantly that I need to stop and let God take control.

I find my inner strength and empowerment when I surround myself with people who love and accept me for me.  I feel my strength when I  don’t ignore my feelings and I listen and support them.  I feel my strength when I am creating.  I feel my strength when I am helping others, even when it is just my own children.  God gives me these strengths to see my good to know that I am worthy.  This world has a way of making you see yourself how you should be, makes you doubt yourself and your abilities.  However, I’m empowered by God to rest and be still and focus on the inner strength that lies within instead of what the rest of the world is telling me to be strong about.

What is your inner strength?

“I hope you know you’re capable, brave and significant. Even when it feels like you’re not.”  anonymous

2 Samuel 22:33 “It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure.” o-INNER-STRENGTH-facebook_mini